It’s not about me…

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The first rule of celebrant work is, “it’s not about me”.

Melanie Stuart marriage celebrantYour marriage ceremony is very much all about you. Your stories, your love, your wishes, your words.

Having said that, it is my connection to you which makes all the difference in ensuring that your ceremony is perfect.

That connection is made when we first sit down to talk. Maybe we have just ordered the same coffee, or we discover that we have travelled to the same places, studied at the same University, love the same books, know the same fishing spots, have both faced the same challenges parenting tiny humans, or have friends in common. Maybe we have little in common at all. But I still want to know what makes you tick, who you are, and hear your stories.

I connect with you by listening and engaging. I’ll let you talk, and I won’t overshare.

But, if you’ve just begun looking for the right celebrant for you, and you’re wondering if we’ll click, I’ve provided a few snippets of my backstory below…
 
 
 

  • I grew up in Napier. My childhood was a hybrid of provincial city life, high country farming, and boarding school.
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  • I attended Otago University for six years, back in the days when “The Cook” served Speights in jugs, and Poppa’s Pizza sold you “all you could eat” for $10.
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  • I studied both a profession and a passion. I have a law degree, and a BA in English Literature. I was always meant to be a celebrant, not a lawyer. There’s a novel in my head waiting to be written one day.
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  • As a teenager, whenever I spoke on behalf of my cousins at family gatherings, I cried. One of my cuzzies has booked me as her marriage celebrant anyway.
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  • I’ve been a bridesmaid once. The dress was tight, silver and strapless. I’ve been a bride once too and my dress was none of those things.
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  • The first country I went to on my OE was Nepal, which freaked my mum out no end.
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  • I travelled to the next ten countries on the back of a 10-tonne truck with three other kiwis, a Swiss teacher, a Danish student and an English madman who somehow managed to keep us safe for 14 weeks even in the desert of Iran and the mountains bordering Afghanistan (where I held a Kalishnikov.)
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  • I’ve done a tandem skydive in Taupo, squeezed myself through the Jenolan caves in Aussie, drunk freshly squeezed orange juice in Damascus, climbed a mountain in Pakistan and swum in the Dead Sea.
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  • I met my husband on a blind date in London. Turned out he grew up in Napier too.
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  • We got married in a Cathedral (because his grandfather rebuilt it after the Napier Earthquake) and our ceremony was Anglican.
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  • I re-wrote as much of our ceremony as I could – and included readings from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin and a sonnet by Shakespeare.
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  • Three “pretty famous” people I’ve met are Cherie Blair, (a prominent English barrister who happened to be married to the Prime Minister of England), Sir Edmund Hillary, and Richie McCaw.
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  • I have four gorgeous young children. Our home is filled with cricket balls, soccer shin pads, dirty sneakers, and the odd tiara.
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  • My massive collection of books is arranged in the colours of the rainbow.
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  • I didn’t become a marriage celebrant just because I love weddings (although I obviously do love being a small part of your special day, and I especially adore the flowers!).
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  • I became a celebrant because I love meeting people and hearing their stories. I love language. I love words. I love discovering different cultures, ideas, symbols and new information. It’s a huge privilege to be trusted to give a voice to them in your ceremony.

 

So that’s enough about me. I hope you’ll get in touch to tell me all about YOU!
 
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